Dilemma for China?s one-child generation: where to spend New Year

BEIJING ? This week begins China?s annual mass pilgrimage, as hundreds of millions of people pack the trains and highways to return to their hometowns for the Chinese New Year holiday known as the Spring Festival.

But for one particular group ? young urban married couples who grew up as only children ? the yearly ritual can also mean tough decisions, sometimes-painful arguments, and a modern-day test for one of China?s most enduring centuries-old family traditions.

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These young couples are part of the generation of only children born during the 34 years of China?s ?one child policy.? Following the typical pattern, they migrated to the larger cities from the outlying provinces to go to university. They stayed for work, then got married.

And now they must decide which set of parents to go visit. It?s a decision fraught with emotion, especially for China?s growing elderly population, who often live alone and far from their children, who have historically been caregivers in a country with little social safety net.

?Both of us want to go back to our home to celebrate Chinese New Year,? said Lin Youlan, 30, a government worker who married her husband, Li Haibin, 33, four years ago. ?We always fight about this problem.? She is from Chongqing in southwest China, and he is from Shangdong, on China?s east coast. They live in Beijing, and they are both only children.

Li said as the only son, he is under intense family pressure to visit his parents, who are not in good health. ?In Shandong Province, men must celebrate the Spring Festival with their own families. And the wives should spend the Lunar New Year at their husbands? homes,? he said. ?I worry how others will look at my parents if I don?t go back home every year.?

In ancient times, the Lunar New Year?s Eve and the first day of the New Year were spent at the home of the husband?s parents, and the second day was spent with the parents of the wife. But that was in a time when couples largely married from the same village or town, or a relatively short distance away.

Now China?s 1.3 billion people are mobile and rapidly urbanizing. The government announced Tuesday that the country?s urban population had surpassed those living in rural areas, compared to just a quarter of the population living in cities in 1990.

That shift, coupled with the one-child policy and other societal changes, has left tens of millions of elderly people living alone, and often with little in the way of government aid. China also has few nursing homes, and no tradition of professional caretakers to look after the elderly when they become infirm.

China now has 178 million people over the age of 60, according to government census figures. Li Liguo, the minister of social affairs, said that number of over-60s will jump to 216 million, or 16.7 percent of the population, by 2015. At that time, Li said, there will be 51 million ?empty nester? old people over 65 and living alone.

But while the older population is growing, China?s current birthrate of about 1.54 children per woman is considered far below the normal replacement rate, which is 2 children per woman. (The United States, by comparison, is 2.06).

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